I wrote this just two years after The Accident. It’s been almost four years now. I continue to live, to heal, and to recover. Healing, even from deep grief, is possible with Christ.

A gal commented on something I posted yesterday.

She was trying to tell me that I cannot really be okay, not yet. She was responding to my articles “Healing” and “Dream”.

She said I might be okay…some day. But I cannot be okay yet. It’s only been two years.

According to her, some day I will “wake up” and realize that I was not actually okay, but was in a sleep-like state for years. I would see that I had not really been functioning or living. This “sleep” will be God’s way of protecting me from all the pain. She knows this is what I will experience because it’s what she experienced. She was in a sleep-like state in her grief. She “woke up” six years after her daughter’s death. She said she prays that I have more “sleep” and rest….

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Christianity, death of a child, healing, healing in grief, support for parents who lost a child


I write about my life, my journey, my family, and my faith. I am wife to one, mom to seven with one in heaven, and grandmother to many. I am also full-time caregiver to my stepmom E who suffers from dementia due to Alzheimer’s. In my spare time I like to read, travel, crochet, bike, and play with our black pug Molly.

Comments (2)

  • I hardly know what to say. Obviously this poor lady had a very long grieving period. But there are no rules about grieving, no mandated period of time that must pass before you’re allowed to “wake up.”

    • She had a very hard go of it. I can’t imagine watching my child die of brain cancer over a couple of years. Add to that the responsibilities of being a wife and mom…I hurt for her.

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