A New Overcoat

A dear friend of mine lost family members in a plane crash a few years ago, including children and grandchildren.

She told me that the loss of a child is like putting on a very heavy overcoat that you will wear the rest of your life.  It changes you forever.  You sill function and go on with life.  But the coat is always there.  Some days it is heavy, other days it is lighter.

Over time, it does get lighter.

This helps me a lot.  It also gives me a shorthand I can use when people ask how I am doing.  For example, tonight when out oldest daughter called, I could tell her the last couple of days have been “very heavy coat days” and she understands what that means.

I have had a few “light coat” days, like when Ron and I have gone biking or running in the beautiful fall weather.  Or when I came home to a surprise of all my fall decorations out!

But the coat is always there. I will wear it always.

4 thoughts on “A New Overcoat

  1. Pingback: February Favorites #11: A New Overcoat | kathleenbduncan

  2. I think it is true. I have lost a younger bro, 23 days after his 23rd birthday, dad 10 yrs. 2 months to exact day and mother 6 yrd later a day after bro died. Had a hard time to this day especially holiday and birthdays I think we all have memories of special days after we have lost a loved one. Many don ot talk about

    Like

  3. Pingback: Throwback Thursday: A New Overcoat  | kathleenduncan

Please tell me what you think about this post.

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s