Feeling Sad

Canyon De ChelleySome days my heart just hurts.

Perhaps I’m feeling sad because today is the 12th. The Accident was on the 12th. Perhaps this week was hard because Peter turned 21. His brother will never have a 21st birthday; he died at age 20. Perhaps I am worn out because of all the traveling we have done the last few months. Perhaps I am feeling off because I haven’t exercised or been outside much this past week. Or perhaps I am feeling low because I am human, and we humans just feel low sometimes.

Today I am low, off, worn out, and sad.

I miss my kids. All of them. I miss hearing them run through the house. I miss their laughter, their talks, their noise. I miss having them cooking and making messes. I miss their hugs and waiting up for them to come home at night before I went to sleep. I miss watching movies with them, especially the ones we could quote by heart. I miss asking for a table for nine at restaurants. I even miss hearing them argue.

I’m grateful they have grown up and moved on to their own lives. They are doing well. They are making progress in pursuit of joy and life and happiness. School, career, family. They have great friends and live great adventures.

I love the phone calls I get and the silly texts. I feel needed when they call for my help with some paperwork or such. I enjoy seeing their Instagram and FB posts. I especially like traveling to see them. 

But I miss them. And I miss their brother.

On sad days I can still have peace.

I know my Redeemer lives. I know I am loved. I know I am cared for. I know He is Lord of all. And on sad days that is enough.


KathleenBDuncan

I write about my life, my journey, my family, and my faith. I am wife to one, mom to seven with one in heaven, and grandmother to many. I am also full-time caregiver to my stepmom E who suffers from dementia due to Alzheimer’s. In my spare time I like to read, travel, crochet, bike, and play with our black pug Molly.

Comments (8)

  • There are those days when for no special reason we just kind of stop in our tracks, and look back on where we’ve been. A lot of emotions, both happy and sad surface and we would almost trade all we have to go back, if for only a day. But we can’t go back so I do the next best thing, I indulge them. I let them have the day. I admit to my struggle and that somehow that seems to rejuvenate me. Good post Kathleen!

  • Thanks, Kathleen, I needed to read this today. I miss my son every day, but some days the missing just hurts more and is harder to take. Today I had a FB memory that was him writing on my wall 7 yrs ago today, when he was a freshman in college. It kind of threw me for a loop, but what a treasure! Anyway, thank you for your transparency; for your willingness to share your thoughts and feelings. God bless you!

  • Hugs Kathleen, My son’s been dead 4 months, and my heart hurts also, some days I’m okay but most days I’m sad. I’m trying to move on with my life, but some days it’s not possible.

    • Sandy,

      You are still early in your journey! It sounds trite, but trust God and let Him heal your heart. Your emotions and thoughts will change over time. Grief becomes more bearable. And then one day, you may look back and realize you are experiencing more joy than sorrow. That will be a glorious day!

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