When I wrote this, my intent was to educate, not to blame or shame. For there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus! (Which I believe also means there is no place for me to condemn others.)
People say things in an attempt to comfort. They mean well! Oh! How they want to help! To love us and somehow make our pain less. When things are said that hurt, we must extend GRACE! We walk in grace and forgiveness, looking at the intent.
We who have grieved and been comforted by God, The Holy Spirit, The Comforter, must also comfort others and extend grace as we have received grace.