I’ve heard many times, “You do whatever makes you feel better.” But what makes me feel better in the short term is often detrimental in the long term.
Instead of taking my own counsel and doing what I think is best, I have found it advisable to study God’s Word, seek His wisdom, and follow His instructions while crying out to Him for help and comfort.
No where in scripture have I found exceptions to His instructions such as, “Be kind and compassionate to one another except when you are suffering.” Or “Bear one another’s burdens except when you are grieving.”
I believe God is supremely wise. He knows what we need to heal, what will help us in our suffering. He knows that reaching out and helping others will ultimately help us as well.
Yes, there is a time to weep and mourn. There is a time to rest. Even so, a time comes when we must step out of our own safe place and love others, serve others, comfort others even as we suffer. We must share the comfort we have received from God, in whatever measure we have received it, with those around us who are hurting.
Some of the most beautiful servant-hearted people I know help others despite their own pain and suffering. They still grieve. They still suffer. Yet they are farther along this path and reach back to show others a way to healing.
I want to be like them.