She almost never wants to take a nap if I ask her. No matter how tired she may be.
She also no longer knows when she needs to use the toilet, but she is willing to go to the bathroom anytime I suggest it.
From the day she moved in, she has only used her bathroom. She has to walk through her bedroom to get to her bathroom.
How does all this fit together???
When she’s very tired (or I need an afternoon break), I simply say, “Hey, sweetheart, you haven’t gone to the bathroom in a few hours. You should probably go use the toilet.”
She agrees. She goes into the bathroom. I direct her to the toilet and cue her on what to do. (Once she’s seated she knows what’s do. She even still remembers to wash her hands.) While she’s in the bathroom I turn off her bedroom light and leave the room, shutting the door behind me.
When she comes out of the bathroom, she sees her bed and decides to take a nap. She wraps up like a burrito in her throw and naps a couple of hours.
I do not tell her to take a nap. I give her the opportunity to nap is she wants to. And she almost always wants to.
This works 9 out of 10 times!!
Works at night, too. Except I get her pajamas out and lay them on the bed. I suggest she brush her teeth while she’s washing her hands. Once she’s done that, she comes out, sees the pjs, and says she’s ready for bed. I cue her to change into her pajamas, give her the night meds, and tuck her in.
No more arguing about bedtime.