According to a popular book, the five love languages include:
- Acts of Service
- Words of affirmation
Someone commented on my post yesterday that Ron Duncan’s love language is acts of service.
I don’t know about that.
What I do know is that if you read the gospels you will see that Jesus exhibited all of these. He gave gifts. He served people. He touched people. He spoke words of affirmation to people. And he spent time with people.
Yes, we may each lean towards one of these five; we may find one easier to exhibit than the others.
But as we grow and mature in Christ…as we are conformed to his image…we should grow in how we love others. And we should grow in how we receive love. We should learn – and practice – loving others in ways that best fill their need at the time.
Ron definitely served me well yesterday as he has throughout my recovery. He has cooked, cleaned, shopped, and done do much more for me.
As Tracy Martin Pond saw one day, he also has given me gifts; she caught him buying me popsicles at Market Street one evening.
He has touched me as he helped me change my dressings and helped me with my sling. He has gently rubbed my other arm and my neck when then the pain was bad. His touch helped my brain stop thinking about the pain.
He has encouraged me and affirmed his love for me even when I was grumpy in my recovery. He’s called just to check on me and to say, “I love you,” many days.
He’s spent time with me. Sitting on our porch enjoying our new party lights.
These are just things he’s done the past six weeks. He’s loved me each of these ways many times over the years.
What is his one love language? What is mine?
I have no idea.
What I do know is that these two people were young and foolish. We were selfish and had no idea what was ahead. But for the past 38 years, together we have grown and learned. Together we have grieved and rejoiced. Together we have learned to love each other in many ways. And together we have become one.