I was talking with my daughter and remembering how I handled a trip with E a while ago. It involved a hotel stay....
We had arrived in our hotel after a long day of packing up her room for the move to her new home and then driving 6 hours. Check in had taken a while and by the time we got to our room, E was confused and very tired. As she looked around the room clearly lost she asked, “so... uhm... hmmmm...... what.... what is the plan now?”
“Well, I’m not sure what you’re going to do, Read more [...]
“Be present.” “Be in the moment.”
We’ve heard these phrases. As in “learn to be present with those around you instead of on your device” and “be in the moment without regrets of yesterday or fear of tomorrow.”
Dealing with a person who has dementia has made this so clear to me! Be present! Enjoy the moment. Pay attention to those with whom you are spending time. Don’t dwell on the past. Enjoy now, this time...today.
She doesn’t remember the activities of last week. But in Read more [...]
I had a wonderful day with E!
After fighting for a year to get family to let her live near me, she moved here in July. The transfer was hard at first. New apartment, new town, new staff, new friends, new routine. Then she broke her arm. The move is what she wanted, but it hasn't been easy.
We've been trying to do little things - an outing here, some shopping there - to help her get more comfortable in her new hometown. She's settling in and adjusting. She's made a few friends at the Assisted Living Read more [...]
Dear church members who visit those living in nursing homes and assisted livings,
First, thank you. Thank you for caring enough to visit. Thank you for taking time to minister to residents. Your heart seems to be in the right place.
Second, I appreciate your generosity in giving Bibles. It’s very kind.
However, may I suggest that you get to know each resident before giving them a large, expensive study Bible?
My mom has been in three facilities over the past year. She now owns six study Bibles. Read more [...]
Vegetarian does not just mean “take away the meat.” It seems the cook at the Assisted Living did not understand this...or didn't care.
A sweet woman named Bobbie lives at the same Assisted Living my mom lives. They are great friends. They work puzzles and attend church together. They eat together. They can be seen gabbing about life together.
Bobbie is a vegetarian and an amputee. She's been having trouble with her leg. Sores developed where her prosthetic grips. Her wounds had gotten so bad Read more [...]
A man named John lives at the Assisted Living where my mom lives. He has dementia. I'd been told he is moving soon to a smaller group home. The AL says John has started to “wander” a bit, and they were saying he has to go to memory care. I’m not sure that what he’s doing is wandering, neither is his family.
Yesterday John was on the sidewalk again. Here is how I helped to gently coax him back inside. Read more [...]
Dementia With Grace, by Vicky Noland Fitch
This short (I read it in a day) and helpful book is a must read for caregivers of dementia patients. Whether you are a professional or family caregiver you will find tips on dealing with aspects of the disease and how to make life better for yourself and your patients. The book included a great Patient History Form I will be using with my clients*. I read it on Kindle but am ordering paperback for my reference library.
*I am working to become a Certified Read more [...]
Today was a lovely day. I’m visiting my loved one at the assisted living. I’ve been here since Thursday. I stay in a guest room on site, so I get to do life with Marie. (That's not her real name to protect her privacy. All names have been changed.)
I had lunch and dinner with Marie. We laughed and talked. I showed her videos and pictures of my kids whom she adores. We cleaned out her fridge and made a shopping list for our Target run tomorrow.
I’m here to see her, but I have gotten to know Read more [...]