Serenity

All these people talking about saber rattling and nuke war. And I'm over here just breathing in and out and putting one foot in front of the other right now. It's work to get up and get dressed some days. Living one day at a time. Continuing to make progress knowing perfection is out of…

My Life 

From one year ago. Still true. “It took choosing to get up in the morning and get dressed. It took going outside, to the grocery store, and the dry cleaners. It took going to the dentist and calling repair men to fix stuff around me house. It took balancing my checkbook and celebrating the birth…

I Want to Be Famous…

I once asked seventeen-year-old Andrew what he wanted to do after school. What career did he plan to pursue? He was trying to decide which college to attend and what to major in. He ended up at West Texas A&M University in Canyon, Texas, where he majored in dance and accounting. He loved that school.…

Own Your Feelings

From about two and half years after The Accident. — In the past thirty-one months I’ve heard many parents who’ve lost a child say things like: We will never be happy again. None of us can ever get past it. We all know how you feel. We have all felt the same way. We all…

How are you? No, really! How are you?

Fifteen months after The Accident I wrote the following. When you ask someone, “How are you?” please listen to their answer and believe them.  —— Some parents I know were discussing how to respond when someone asks “How are you?” after the death of a child. Though they are really feeling like they are in…

Safe

Many years ago, as an ice breaker at church one morning, the Bible study leader asked, “When you were a little girl, what did you want to be when you grew up?”  The other women in the class answered things like scientist, teacher, mommy, princess, nurse. Typical little girl answers. We all smiled and laughed. …

Romans 8

On Sunday evenings we are going through a Bible study with a group of folks who’ve all lost loved ones. Throughout this study we look at various passages and discuss how they apply in our grief journey.  Here are a few insights these folks have discussed as we looked at Romans 8.  12 So then,…

Eternal Life

We need to get to know God.  Seek Him.  Spend time studying His Word then apply it in our lives.  Pray. Worship. Talk with Him. Listen to Him.  Do you know the One True God?  We can find healing in our grief.  We find healing, hope, peace, and joy in the One True God. Do…

 Gifts From Above

So many hurting people crave comfort. They crave a sign that they are going to be okay or that their departed loved ones are okay. (Last week I shared a quote from “God’s Healing in Grief.” The article is “Are They Okay.“) Grieving people crave comfort so much that they may be deceived into believing…