Friendship. Jesus. Coffee. Poetry

Can We Still Be Friends?

I don’t drink coffee. But I love Jesus. Can we still be friends? I attended an Episcopal day school. But I went to a Catholic high school. Can we still be friends? I was baptized in a Church of Christ. But I’ve attended Baptist & Presbyterian Churches and Assemblies of God. Can we still be…

Underlying Sadness 

From last spring. The losses I’ve experienced no longer cause me daily pain. Instead, I long for Home in ways I never had before. “In grief support groups, parents often speak of an unending sadness. They say no matter what they do, even when they appear to others to be happy, they are sad under…

Do not fear

Originally posted on kathleenbduncan:
Another meme that has a different meaning for us who have lost a child, parent, or spouse. I am not unaware of the bad things that can happen. I know?that bad things happen. People die! People I love! I know cancer, car wrecks, heart attacks, and murder happen every day. Death…

The Next Right Thing

A couple of years ago I wrote about doing The Next Right Thing. As parents who have experienced the death of our child, we have to choose what the next right thing is for us. We have to choose how we will live…or if we will live. No, I’m not talking about taking our own life. But…

Serenity

All these people talking about saber rattling and nuke war. And I'm over here just breathing in and out and putting one foot in front of the other right now. It's work to get up and get dressed some days. Living one day at a time. Continuing to make progress knowing perfection is out of…

My Life 

From one year ago. Still true. “It took choosing to get up in the morning and get dressed. It took going outside, to the grocery store, and the dry cleaners. It took going to the dentist and calling repair men to fix stuff around me house. It took balancing my checkbook and celebrating the birth…

I Want to Be Famous…

I once asked seventeen-year-old Andrew what he wanted to do after school. What career did he plan to pursue? He was trying to decide which college to attend and what to major in. He ended up at West Texas A&M University in Canyon, Texas, where he majored in dance and accounting. He loved that school.…

Own Your Feelings

From about two and half years after The Accident. — In the past thirty-one months I’ve heard many parents who’ve lost a child say things like: We will never be happy again. None of us can ever get past it. We all know how you feel. We have all felt the same way. We all…

How are you? No, really! How are you?

Fifteen months after The Accident I wrote the following. When you ask someone, “How are you?” please listen to their answer and believe them.  —— Some parents I know were discussing how to respond when someone asks “How are you?” after the death of a child. Though they are really feeling like they are in…