Another year has passed.
I realize I am not the first mother to lose her son. Eve grieved Abel. Mary grieved Jesus. I will not be the last. Many others will walk this road. But knowing these things does not make losing my Andrew easier.
What has made this loss bearable is knowing my son was a great guy pursuing his dreams. He was kind and funny and smart. He will always be missed. And he is loved by God.
Knowing we are loved and lifted up in prayer by our friends even five years later helps us Read more [...]
Early in May, I had a positive pregnancy test at the Crisis Pregnancy Center where I volunteered. A week later my OB-GYN confirmed that I was pregnant with baby number five.
I felt great! No problems.
Until I started bleeding.
At ten weeks they could not find a heartbeat. The doctor did a four ultrasounds over the next two weeks. Not only could they not find a heartbeat, they could not even find a baby! "Not a viable pregnancy" was what the doctor wrote on my chart. Fortunately, Read more [...]
5:47 am August 13, 2013
There was a knock on the door. I looked out the window and saw a cop car. Not good. Never a good thing to have a cop at your door. Worse this time of day. I grabbed my bathrobe...
Read more: The Day My LIfe Changed Forever: August 13, 2013
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...since my son breathed his last breath on earth and found himself in the presence of Christ.
The Accident happened about 11:30 on a Monday night. Because of the location, they were not pronounced dead until 12:15 am on August 13, 2013.
The 12th was hard for me those first ten months. Then I decided to be grateful -- grateful on the 12th for all I had rather than be overwhelmed by my loss. Choosing gratitude has helped me heal. It has helped Read more [...]
Last night I posted my Photo 101 assignment. It wasn't fun or happy. But it was where my head was. This morning, I want to assure you that my head is not always in that place.
My life is full of joy! I don't sit around my house grieving or thinking about grief.
If you read about my Travels (find them in the category cloud at the side bar) you will see that we have adventures and fun. Or check out our cycling adventures!
Or let me tell you about my week....
We arrived home last Monday night Read more [...]
For my long time readers, there are only two more days of this class. I hope my daily posting of pictures hasn't bored you.
Today's assignment is:
Today, show us an edge — a straight line, a narrow ridge, a precipice.
Today's Tip: To make sure your edge packs a punch, use a photo editing tool to check the alignment and adjust the image, if needed, so that your edge is perfectly straight.
My photos for this assignment aren't very cheery. They are where my brain is tonight. They include straight Read more [...]
This blog started about a month after The Accident as a way to let friends and family know how I was doing in the weeks after our son's death. It soon became an outlet for my thoughts on grief, life, and my faith. Before long, readers commented about how my writing helped them in their own grief. It has morphed into something much bigger than I ever imagined.
My prayer has remained the same: I pray that my words honor my family, glorify God, and help others heal.
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One more Andrew story
23 years ago today....
We stopped at Paty Lumber Company in Bristol, TN, to get some paint on the way to the hospital. The gal at cash register freaked when I had a contraction while in line. "She's having a baby!" she yelled. Not yet, I thought. This was my fifth child, and I knew we had time.
Andrew Raymond Duncan was born five hours later, after we had safely arrived at the hospital.
The next morning was a bit exciting as four-year-old David and 18-month-old Read more [...]
Today is Andrew's 23rd birthday. He's in Heaven. But the joy he brought to many remains.
My son loved pickup lines. They rarely worked. Maybe because he was as likely to try them on his married dance instructor (a grandmother) as he was a sixteen year old who was just having a bad day. He'd deliver them in front of husband or a dad. And he always delivered them with a silly grin. Everyone knew they were his way of saying, "I like you. I care about you. I want to make you feel special." And Read more [...]