She’s having trouble tying her shoes.
This makes me sad.
I’ve already started buying elastic waistband pants since she has trouble remembering to unbutton and unzip when trying to pull them up or down. Now it’s her shoes.
It is what it is. I can’t stop the progression of the disease. I must accept what I cannot change and change what I can. Today I’m changing to slip-on shoes.
She loves Keds. But all her Keds are lace-ups. I’ve looked for slip-on Keds online. But she wears Read more [...]
Fun Brain Games for Adults made it to #1 New Release in Adults and Continuing Education!!
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A few reviews:
As a therapist I am always looking for new resources to help engage our patients. This book is great. It has a nice variety of activities for older adults. The level of difficulty is perfect. Providing stimulating and fun activities is very important for supporting individuals who are having some memory challenges. I highly recommend Read more [...]
Why, yes!! The home health aide that comes twice weekly to help E shower has helped me get my nightgown off twice now. Thanks for asking.
And, yes, my hubby did take me to get button down pajamas at Target yesterday.
E still has no idea what this black sling I’m wearing is for nor why I nap so much. It’s new to her every day.
So every morning I sweetly say, “Good morning. I’ll need your help today. I had shoulder surgery a few days ago. I can’t use my right arm. And it still hurts Read more [...]
My dad gave her a card for every occasion, every holiday. St. Patrick’s Day, Flag Day, Thanksgiving, Easter, anniversary, birthday, Wednesday. You name it, he got her a card. She loved getting cards.
Since she moved to Texas, family has stopped sending cards. Her family. My siblings. No birthday cards. No Christmas cards. Mother’s Day she got a card only from me; my siblings ignore her now.
In June, with her birthday coming up, I decided to take action.
I posted on my personal social Read more [...]
Caregiving is hard. And I suck at it.
There. I said it.
I am not great at caregiving.
Despite what you may think from some of my blog posts, I am not a very good caregiver. Some days I barely muddle through.
Some days I don’t wake her up until ten so I can have an extra hour or two to myself.
Some days breakfast is microwaved. Every two weeks I make a large casserole (hash browns, sausage, peppers, onions, mushrooms, and cheese with eggs poured on top), so I can microwave some Read more [...]
Some days she will stand like this for an hour or more. Just staring. And sighing.
She doesn’t want to do anything I suggest - read, watch tv, fold her laundry, sit on the porch. Nope. She doesn’t want to do any of those things. She just stands.
It was strange, and a bit disturbing, at first. Then one day I realized how grateful I am that she can stand for an hour!
Whether she’s staring down the hall at unseen things or looking out the window at the yard, it’s not a problem behavior. Read more [...]
Remember Mixtapes? Your favorite songs recorded off the radio onto one cassette tape you loved to play over and over. You knew the words; you sang along. Those songs were familiar and comforting.
Remember when your favorite mixtape got stuck in your car radio on the way to school? You put it in and it started playing weird; the music was all wrong. You pulled it out and the tape unraveled.
After school you try to rewind it with a pencil. It takes hours. Finally, the tape is back in the case Read more [...]
This happened back in January. I’m sharing in hopes it helps someone else.
I saw how ugly my heart is that night.
Yesterday morning I was tired, and it was a gray day. I had no plans, so I put on sweats, a long-sleeve t-shirt, and a sweater jacket that had been Andrew’s. It’s the only piece of his clothing I kept to wear. It’s big on me and very soft. It’s warm. I love it. I stayed in my comfy clothes all day.
I’d taken the sweater jacket off after dinner and Read more [...]
A few weeks ago, I spent most of one day mowing our property. About six hours.
That morning, E went on adventures with her new caregiver/companion then took a nap after lunch. I mowed before she woke up, while she was gone, and while she napped.
While mowing I got something in my eye. It was painful, red, and swollen even after I washed it out numerous times. Despite the pain in my eye, I lovingly cared for E. I fixed her dinner, gave her her meds, and attempted to get her to bed.
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Ruthie’s parents were told she’d never read.
Evelyn often can’t find her words.
Together they read a book today.
You should have seen the look on E’s face Monday morning when Ruthie and her sisters arrived for their reading lessons! She beamed!! She loves when kids come visit.
The girls have been told they are helping Miss Evelyn (whose brain is a bit broken) by reading aloud to her. They are glad to help.
In reality, they are all helping each other.
Evelyn has a master’s Read more [...]