Sixteen Years Ago

Sixteen years ago I woke on Easter morning when the phone rang. It was Evelyn calling to tell me my dad was gone to live forever in Heaven. I could hear the love, pain, and tears in her voice. They had a beautiful marriage and an wonderful love for each other. I spent the next…

Transfer Trauma

For many of us, moving our person home, to an assisted living facility, or memory care is a very hard decision! Once it’s made, you may expect things to get better. They won’t. Not at first. Your person needs a time of adjustment. They may lose cognitive abilities, become agitated, depressed, or more confused. It’s…

Sunday Scripture Post 3/21

I’ve begun sharing scripture posts in a dementia caregivers group. Here is my post this week. In the comments, please share passages that encourage you in whatever you are walking through. SUNDAY SCRIPTURE POST I love Ephesians 2. The whole chapter! It reminds me that I am saved grace. Because I have received grace, even…

Record Keeping

Record Keeping Are you caring for a loved one? Do you struggle with all the paperwork for your LO? I use a heavy-duty 2” binder. I start a new binder each year. All receipts, bills, Medicare & SS forms, etc go into the notebook. Everything is filed by date within sections. Here are the dividers/sections…

The Drawer

Today I cleaned out The Drawer. We have antique chest of drawers in our entry way. It came from my parents’ home more then seven years ago. She gave it to me just two months before The Accident. She’d bought it at a garage sale and painstakingly refinished it. It was in their breakfast room…

Grateful in Dementia

I was thinking about some things that happened Thursday. I realized I can be grateful even in the midst of this horrible disease. I went for an Essential Caregiver visit. (Texas now allows Essential Caregivers to enter facilities.) I knew I needed to organize E’s closet, quickly go through drawers looking for trash, and clean…

Flowers

I can’t go in to see E; all long-term care facilities are on lockdown. Only medically necessary visits allowed. I can’t visit her, but I can brighten her day. A local grocer had large bunches of flowers for $5. They were half price 3-7 pm on Friday. I bought six bunches. A friend and I…

Getting Her Hair Washed

I came home from a trip two days ago and it was clear E’s hair had not been washed in at least two weeks. When I asked E about going to a salon to get it washed, she replied, “I don’t give a sh** about my hair!” Well then! I quickly dropped that topic!

Here is what I did to deal with the situation.

Instructions Not Needed

I was talking with my daughter and remembering how I handled a trip with E a while ago. It involved a hotel stay…. We had arrived in our hotel after a long day of packing up her room for the move to her new home and then driving 6 hours. Check in had taken a…

Be Present

“Be present.” “Be in the moment.” We’ve heard these phrases. As in “learn to be present with those around you instead of on your device” and “be in the moment without regrets of yesterday or fear of tomorrow.” Dealing with a person who has dementia has made this so clear to me! Be present! Enjoy…