I failed as a parent of an adult the other night.
My adult kid (who lives in another state) called me very late that night. Things had gone badly for them that day. They needed me to listen. I did...for a while. Then I mentioned a couple of things they had done wrong and offered advice. I may have been right, but my timing was definitely way off. This adult offspring yelled at me. The conversation ended. I didn’t sleep for hours.
The next day they took responsibility for their part and apologized. Read more [...]
The past few weeks I’ve wanted vengeance.
I confessed my weaknesses and need for help.
Friends prayed. One rebuked me (in love).
My attitude changed. Not by my will, but, I’m sure, because of friends who love me.
Now I want to be a minister of reconciliation. This is what I wanted at the beginning of this journey. I believe it’s what God wants.
I’m at peace with His will be done.
My parents weren’t perfect. Far from it. They made many mistakes. They did the best they could with the tools they had. I chose to forgive their failings, and my life is better because I chose forgiveness and grace rather than resentment and bitterness.
I pray my children will do the same for me and that their lives are better for it.
Another great writer.
Sometimes those who hurt us don’t care; the apology never comes. But God is enough. Read this article for a huge dose of encouragement!
Many years ago, as an ice breaker at church one morning, the Bible study leader asked, "When you were a little girl, what did you want to be when you grew up?"
The other women in the class answered things like scientist, teacher, mommy, princess, nurse. Typical little girl answers. We all smiled and laughed.
Then I answered, "Safe." No one laughed.
I didn't have dreams of becoming a doctor or princess. I had only one dream as a child: I desired to be safe. In a perfect Read more [...]
I messed up royally this week. Hurt someone I love when trying to help her. Did what I though was right without seeking God on the issue. Major mess-up!
So I was reviewing my list of IN CHRIST. I'll be adding to it tomorrow. But for tonight, here it is.
If you've messed up like I seem to do almost daily, confess your sin or simply talk to God about your mistake.
He is faithful to forgive what needs to be forgiven. He can show us how to make amends for our major mess-ups.
(Sometimes Read more [...]
I shared my brokenness with someone who loves me last night. They failed this quiz.
I was able to calmly tell them they failed and that I needed a different answer. I told him I needed him to listen to me, to hear me and validate my suffering rather than trying to fix it.
In helping him understand what I needed - rather than just getting angry and bitter and isolating myself even more - I was able to help myself.
I gave him a chance to try again. He gave a wonderful answer on Read more [...]