Heavy Overcoat Days

This popped up on my Facebook page today. The last time his siblings saw him was that next morning when all went to breakfast. When this showed up on Facebook, I cried. I’m having a hard morning. Today my Overcoat feels very heavy. I’ve had many days when my overcoat feels lighter. I’ve had fewer…

Tribute from His Brother

Four years ago my children lost their brother. They lost a friend. The Four Duncan Boys became Three. As Sgt. Duncan helped take charge of assisting his dad and two brothers clean out Andrew’s apartment just a day after finding out their brother had been killed on a country road in the Panhandle of Texas,…

Programs

I was working out the other day. I was working out with a trainer who knows much more about exercise than I do. Why? Because she has experience, strength, and hope. She’s teaching me a program of weight training. She shows me the way to get stronger. One day at a time. Step by step.…

Cicada? It’s Just a Shell

A friend who grew up in the north posted this picture and asked what this horrible creature is and how could she kill it! Many answered that it is a cicada. Or its exoskeleton. They shed like snakes.  I commented, “You don’t need to kill it. It’s already dead.” Another gal commented, “Well, not dead.…

How are you? No, really! How are you?

Fifteen months after The Accident I wrote the following. When you ask someone, “How are you?” please listen to their answer and believe them.  —— Some parents I know were discussing how to respond when someone asks “How are you?” after the death of a child. Though they are really feeling like they are in…

Unique

I wrote this just two years after The Accident. It’s been almost four years now. I continue to live, to heal, and to recover. Healing, even from deep grief, is possible with Christ. A gal commented on something I posted yesterday. She was trying to tell me that I cannot really be okay, not yet.…

Preparation 

I wrote this last year. As graduations and Mother’s Day approach, we need to be prepared.  I encourage each of us to not let anxiety and fear overwhelm us or keep us from participating in activities. Especially activities involving our other living children. Once we miss an event, we cannot go back and recapture that…

The Worst Pain

Recently, some grieving people were discussing their losses. They talked about the pain and sorrow of losing a loved one. The also discussed the comfort they had found through their faith. One of these gals had lost her husband, the love of her life, after more than fifty years of marriage. Another had lost a…