To my dear friends who have lost children,
Please do not get upset when others do not seem to care. It is not worth the pain you are causing yourself by getting angry when another family member or a friend is unable to comfort you in the ways you would like. Sometimes the comfort we need can only come from our loving Heavenly Father.
Please know that I understand you are hurting. I understand your pain. I have been there. Really, I understand.
I know what it is like to want to shout Read more [...]
Facebook conversation from the other night:
Me: Sitting here waiting for my kids to come home. Alas, they are home. It's just that MY home is no longer their home.
But our citizenship is in heaven and we eagerly await a savior from there, the Lord Jesus Christ, who, by the power that enables him to bring everything under his control, will transform our lowly bodies so that they will be like his glorious body. Philippians 3:20-21
— feeling bummed.
My Husband: True, AND the Kingdom of Heaven Read more [...]
In a few days, I will be leaving Margaret in Lookout Mountain, TN. She will, most likely, never live with us again. Yet, I am not sad about this at all!
She is an amazing young woman. Her life has not been perfect; she has had to deal with some very ugly things in her 18 years. But she knows and loves the One who is Perfect. She is kind, compassionate, mature, able, smart and fun. She will quickly make friends and she will, as always, be a good friend to those Read more [...]
I went to the theater last night to see Joseph and His Technicolor Dream Coat.
My youngest was the stage director for this production (her first paid theater job). Andrew played Benjamin in this show about 5 years ago. This was the first show I've seen that he was in since his death other than the opening night of "Texas!" in May. (I expected to cry through "Texas!" for obvious reasons and because this season was dedicated to the "Texas Angels".)
But WOW! I did not expect last night Read more [...]
"How can I love you today?"
A question my daughter asks me. I love this! It is so much better than, "let me know if you ever need anything!"
1. It is immediate. Today! Not just sometime.
2. It indicates understanding that I need expressions of love -- sometimes in deeds and not just words. Words are nice, but sometimes we need others to put their love into actions.
3. It acknowledges that she has responsibility and a need to show me she loves me. It is NOT just "the thought that counts." Read more [...]
Today I am praying for a friend. She is suffering. She is grieving. Not over the loss of a child, but over the loss of dreams, her imagined life. Her marriage has suffered a blow. A blow that many marriages would not survive. But I believe hers will survive! I PRAY hers will survive!
I am amazed at how much of the truth I have thought about, studied, spoken aloud, and prayed since Andrew's death applies to her situation as well:
God knew about this before it ever happened.
He Read more [...]
Today we celebrate 31 years of marriage.
May I tell you story from about 16 years ago?
I was having a horrible week: yelling at our kids, impatient with everyone, being hateful to Ron, I broke the glass on the coffee table by slamming something down in it hard. It was ugly!
I asked Ron why he loved me: "I am so horrible and unlovable - why would you even love me?"
His answer: Because I said I would.
It is the most romantic thing he has ever said to me!
I'm not sure I liked that Read more [...]
Talking with Meredith last night. Told her how great it was to come home from Michigan to a clean house with all my fall decorations. [Our 27 year old Lyz had done this as a surprise for me!]
Meredith reminded me that it will be hard for me to decorate for Christmas this year, but God (I love the “But God” passages in the Bible) but God had provided for me. He had Lyz move back home in June. She loves decorating!!! When it is time to put up the fall and scarecrow décor, Lyz will be Read more [...]